I’M DEVOSTATED, I CAN’T GET PREGNANT?
I just got married 4 months ago, I can’t get pregnant, I have a tumor in my only ovary the right one, and now in a few days my doctors want to remove my uterus, ovary, endometriosis and a hernia I just developed, I’m very sad, all I do is cry day and night, I have always dream of having kids, and now that Im only a few days from my operation, I feel extremely depressed, what can I do, I know that adopting is an option, but I wanted to be pregnant so bad, and my husband had so many dreams of having a baby…I don’t want to eat, I don’t want to sleep, all I do is cry all day long.(This is the 5th operation, that I do for the same reason, the other ovary was removed, with cyst, and a fibroid but my Dr. gave me hope 1 yr ago that I may get pregnant with a treatment, I did all she said, and nothing) Help me plz
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So sorry for your troubles! I would like to know how many doctors you have seen, as i myself had endometriosis so bad the doctor was shocked i ever had children. I also have fibroid cyst and have had them taken out a few times but they just come back so i just live with them.I did have a hysterectomy when i was 26 but they left my ovaries.i had to have it as my last baby was 13 pounds and messed me up.Anyway if i where you i would get a second or third opinion as there are many women with one orary it just may take time !4 months is a short time to have tried for a baby.sometimes you just have to stop trying and it can happen. good luck too you !it is known for docs to do hysterectomys when you really do not need one so please seek another opinion
do they rally have to take it all thats so terrible im sorry
It will be alright. I know you say adoption is no consolation, but member in our family have been adopted and it is a gift. I’m sorry for all your hardship and pain. You will be stronger from all of this.
Ay honey. I am so sorry. I know how it feels to be obsessed with having a baby. Honestly, it’s kinda like when someone asks about how to get over the death of a loved one; there is no way. I do agree with what you have been told, that adoption is a great solution. Are there any support groups of women who have or are wearing your shoes? I think that people that adopt are the most caring people. Maybe that would be your life calling?
Gosh girl, I wish you the best of luck. Please consider adoption because it sounds like any child that would be your son/daughter would receive so much love and caring, and that child would be lucky to have you as a mother.
Firstly, *hug* I am sorry to hear that! I have been trying for 3 years to get pregnant with my hubby and then I went to a fertility specialist and it turns out my tubes don’t work at all so we are currently looking into IVF. That said, I know the depression that you are going through! It shatters you when your dreams fall apart. However, like you said there are other options available to you. Since everything is being removed and you can’t physically get pregnant, then you can’t really dwell on that because it cant be changed. I would suggest looking up some support groups, or maybe going to see a counsellor to help you deal with your emotions and depression and then maybe look into your other options – like you said, there is adoption AND how many beautiful children are there out there looking for a home with someone willing to take them in and love them like their own!
prayer is the key..believe me.its a miracle
dont give up no matter what..keep trying
im not even in your situation and i feel for you…try and try…dont give up..you’ll never know if you dont keep trying…who knows next year you might be giving birth to a miracle baby..
good luck..hope everything works out.
I’m so sorry. Have you considered seeing a therapist? They might be able to help you.
hello honey my name is anna. from a friend to a friend even though we don’t know each other i have a child and i got pregnant on my period. i know it sounds disgusting but me and my husband were having problems and a women told us to try it and for 2 months every time i had my period we did it. try it and please don’t stress i know its hard but it wont help your health. good luck and im praying for you..
you should try to find some SUPPORT groups and maybe do some Research online about adopting a newborn baby
I am so sorry to hear that. I know EXACTLY what you mean. Im afraid that I cant get pregnant either. I too know what u mean about wanting to carry my own child, etc. I think most women do.
I think before you think about where your children will be coming from, you need to focus on grieving. Maybe join a support group, get therapy, and definitely hold on to your hubby. It is true that adoption is an option. Its not the same, and you will still go through this loss, but I know that adoption brings blessings of its own, if you decide you are ready. I know a kid would be blessed to find a loving person like you.
I am sorry about all of this for you.
Adoption is a great thing!!
Don’t cry…God gives us only what we can handle!
Pray!
If the cyst is not cancerous I would recommend that you get a 2nd or 3rd opinion and just don’t remove your one reproductive ovary because the doctor recommends it.
I’m so sorry to hear that!!! That’s rough! It will also be difficult to go into surgical menopause.
Here are my recommendations:
1) get a second opinion, just to be SURE.
2) Go here: http://surmeno.blogspot.com/2006/07/table-of-contents-by-topic.html and read up on surgical menopause and getting on the right hormones. It’s really important to get on the right hormones–because you have endometriosis, you might have some extra challenges, though.
3) Talk to a professional–it’s tough to get a diagnosis of infertility, and talking it over with a psychologist could be helpful.
Hey, I am sorry for you. I would also be sad, but think about other options. I know the idea of being pregnant is really the focus here but it won’t be physically possible (also if you would like a family, then adoption isn’t a bad option). It is better that you be healthy and live the best life with your husband and the family you choose at the end.