Still no baby after 11 years?
I will try to make this a short story for you.
I have been married for 11 years and I am 36, husband is 45. We have been to several doctors, and spent tons of money, on infertility. Been on everything you can imagine. Husband was also tested and he is fine.
This past May I had my annual exam, with a new Dr. and she found that my uterine wall was thick, too thick; she immediately ordered 2 types of laparoscopic surgeries along with a D&C, she thought I may have Cancer of the uterus. Turned out everything was just fine, except for the fibroids I was diagnosed with 4 years ago turned from 2 to 6 fibroids. But she said I could still conceive with no concerns other than my age.
See when I was 16 I gave a baby up for adoption, because it was the smart thing for me to do at that time in my life. My Husband has a 13 year old from a previous relationship. Should we just give up ion the fact that we just can’t have a child of our own? How can I deal with this, when I yearn to conceive? When I think about it, I’m not young anymore and my husband isn’t either.
Any suggestions?
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Its a pity i happen to be in your same shoes,just today i was told my tubes were billaterally blocked,meaning both tubes cant function so i have to result to IVF,i’m the same age as you’re only that i’ve been married just 5yrs.All i can tell you is to try check out your tubes,u know by having a hystosalpingogram yes i had to master this word,i had this done sometime in february this yr to find out the fluids injected in me weren’t spilling out which confirms blockage.Its painful but you’ve got to check this out first b4 any thing.I’m curious about ur several trials of infertility without success when i’m just been adviced to go do one,pls throw more lights on this for me and tell me did you try the in vitro already?Bcos i’m been told thats my only way out now.I do have fibroids too and ialready had some taken out in 02 but it re-occured so its been very frustrating.Add me to ur list ok so we can keep each other posted.
I would just tell you to keep trying and trying i have a friend who has been trying to get pregnant for 7 years and finally she is 3 months pregnant. She also gets fibroids on her uterus but she is pregnant so i would say dont give up because it can happen
WHy don’t you look into adoption. When you were sixteen and gave up that baby I bet that those parents couldn’t coneive for some reason or another. And now you could help out a little baby, give them a goo dlife and great parents when they might not have it otherwise.
Don’t give up. I went 10 years without getting pregnant. We were told we could not have a child. I am now 28 weeks pregnant. I got pegnanat right after I tild myself that I accept the fact that it isn’t going to happen and we stopped trying. I think it was the stress and worry of making it happen that made it not happen. There is an inexpensive spin down procedure I was told about that they concentrate the sperm and inject it directly into the cervix with great sucess. Good Luck. Don’t Give Up, just accept it for what it is.
Well, if you really want to have a child, but you are not having any luck, maybe you could look into adoption. There are many young people today that get pregnant and give their child up for adoption (as you once did). It is your choice, but you do have options. Good Luck!
I think it’s up to you two. Age is a concern though. Noone here is going to be able to persuade you into having or not having a child…I think your mind is already made. Go with your gut instinct.
We have a 11 year old and a 1 year old. We just kept trying and it finally worked for us. How long ago was the D & C ??? Usually within a year after those is the best and easiest time to get pregnant. The thing that finally worked for me was after intercourse I did not get up to go potty, I forced myself to lay on my back and go to sleep to let the little guys get to where they needed to go. I thought after all that other stuff all it took was for me to just relax and let them do their job..
That worked better than the drugs or anything else the doctors prescribed.. Good luck, I know how a heart can ache for your own child and to be pregnant. By the way I am now 38 and my husband is 42 and we are still trying for one more….
no i dont think that u have to give up.u know wat my aunt had baby aftr 11 yrs and now she had 2grls and 2 sis she just pray to GOD had fast for GOD.still she is thank full to GOD.so u shud pray heart and soul……lots best of luck .
try natural remedies. Natural progesterone cream to balance your hormones. Flaxseed oil to provide your daily nutrition for ovulation. Also there are teas to help out with fertility as well as accupuncture.